Inner Child Healing

Inner Child Healing

When a person has significant trauma during early childhood, it is hard for them to cope. They may not know how to say “no” or are silenced by their aggressor(s). They may reach out for help and be denied or told to keep “the secret.” Often, they are terrorized by the perpetrator with threats of death to themselves or loved ones if they tell “the secret.” So, the child often suffers alone.

During the abuse, especially when it is repeated, in order to cope, the child may “tune out” and pretend to be somewhere else. This can lead to a dissociative disorder. As they grow older, when they are in a similar abusive situation or when they visit a place that is similar to the “safe haven” they created, it will trigger a PTSD episode.

Often, various beliefs are created as a result of the trauma.

These immature beliefs become the foundation which their lives are built on. They are coping measures, relating to their immature understanding of what is happening to them. Sometimes these beliefs are made consciously; more often, they are unconscious and buried deep within. As more abuse or similar interactions occur, their foundation built upon these beliefs becomes stronger.

What is also detrimental is when the child reaches out for help and is denied assistance. If they are told not to tell anyone else about “the secret” or no one believes them, this sets off another set of beliefs. They learn early that they can’t trust others. The child is often made to feel guilty, unworthy, unsafe, unlovable, etc. These beliefs become the foundation which creates problems when they reach the teen years and try to build relationships with friends and romantic partners.

When a child is abused by one or both of their parents at a young age, this is the “norm” for them.

They may feel that this is normal for everyone. They are likely to be abusive to others, feeling that being a bully is socially acceptable. It also may become an outlet for them to release their pent-up emotions. Others may feel helpless, that this is their lot in life. Self-esteem plummets, the use of alcohol or drugs may become the chosen way to numb the pain. New emotions may surface, creating rage or the child may draw within, continuing to suffer in silence.

When the child comes of an age to be sexually active, this often triggers many of the dormant beliefs. Thus, the teenager feels that sex is dirty, repugnant, painful, etc. They may unconsciously compare the new sexual partner with the childhood aggressor. They may find it difficult to experience intimacy with their partner. They usually have low self-confidence and low esteem. Many become addicted to pornography. Their lack of self-love and worth leads them to sabotage relationships. They often hate themselves and their bodies. They may purposely gain weight, feeling safety in being unattractive. Some become promiscuous, looking for love in all the wrong places or as an act of self-hatred.

Thus, when the child who was abused reaches puberty, all hell inside breaks loose.

This is why so many young teens need to feel part of a group. They are seeking a safe haven. This is also why many turn to alcohol and drugs to drown and numb the painful memories. They still feel the need to keep “the secret,” while not getting help to understand what happened to them. Many have stuffed the events so deep into the recesses of their heart, that they have no recollection of the traumatic events, yet anxiety and depression builds.

There are many other factors, too numerous to address here. But if you suffered abuse during your early years, you likely are relating to these words. You may feel blocked in many areas of your life, not realizing this is the result of the immature beliefs you created as a child.

The goal is to find these buried beliefs and to release those that no longer serve you.  

To move forward, you need to face and overcome the fears that have been keeping you from living a happy life. The Inner Child Healing Meditation is one method that has been of great benefit to many people. There are also many books to help overcome childhood trauma. I have included a list of resources that were suggested by others who have also suffered childhood trauma.

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To begin, get into a comfortable position, with the phone turned off. Allow at least 30 minutes where you will not be interrupted. Take several long, deep breaths in and out until you feel relaxed. Keep your focus on your breath. Then take several more to relax even deeper. Remind yourself that you are safe. At any time, you can tell yourself to go in as an Observer. You do not need to relive the trauma, however, it is important to allow any emotions that arise to surface, allowing them to release.

The goal of this meditation is to call forth your “inner self” for a chat. It may take more than one attempt to get your inner child to come to you because the mistrust and fear runs deep.

When you call in your inner child, recognize that this fragment of yourself is still at the age of the trauma. So, visualize and communicate with “inner you” as though you were talking to a child, teen or adult of that age. To keep this dialogue simple, the remainder of this document will refer to “little you” even if you were a teen or adult. Just change the language in your mind to a more appropriate descriptor such as “15 year old me.”

You can invite “little you” to sit on your lap, to sit beside you or to sit across from you. Visualize yourself in a seated position so that you are not towering over “little you” because this can be intimidating. Not all people are able to actually “see” during this process, and that is fine. If you wish, place a stuffed animal or doll in the chair and pretend that it is the “inner you.”

Using your intuition, decide how you will gain the confidence of getting “little you” to come forward. You may suggest to “little you” to look around and see that it is safe; it is just the two of you. Send love from your heart to the heart of “little you.” Let “little you” know that you are here to help so that he/she is not alone anymore. If “little you” won’t come to you, then you may have to go to “little you,” keeping a distance that is comfortable for “little you.” Visualize having a flashlight or turning on a light so you can find where “little you” is hiding.

When you make the connection, then you can begin the communication. Again, it may take a few attempts to get to build trust between you. This is because “adult you” may also be fearful of going in and feeling the old pain, thus blocking the communication. Sometimes, it may be difficult because you aren’t an inner visual person. Keep trying. Like all things, it gets easier with practice.

Once you make the connection with “little you,” begin the conversation. Again, talk to “little you” in the language and tone you would speak to a child of that age. From this point in the meditation there are many variables, because every person’s experience is unique. Also, you may have experienced different types of trauma at different ages, and by different perpetrators. In this case, you may benefit from using this meditation to release each individual layer. In each case, talk in the voice and tone that is the same as the age you were when the trauma occurred.

Use your intuition to help “little you” heal. Here are some things to consider. Do what is appropriate for your individual needs.

– Help “little you” feel safe during your talks.

– Let “little you” know that what the other person did was wrong and it wasn’t your fault.

– Tell “little you” that even if others did not believe you, you know the truth.

– Invite “little you” to remember the look in the eyes of the aggressor when they were being mean. Tell them that if the eyes were different than normal, it was bad entities that were doing it, not the person they knew. Those bad entities are now being taken away through the SoulCleanse.

– Remind “little you” that not everyone is that way and that you now are old enough to stay away from situations like that. You aren’t helpless anymore.

– Encourage “little you” to scan your life. All memories are stored in your body, so it will be easy to do this. Remind “little you” to notice that you are now grown and to see that the things that were happening then are no longer happening.

– Let “little you” know that it is now safe to come out, you are all grown up now and have a voice. You are now big enough to protect yourself and know how to say “no” and to be heard.

– Tell “little you” that he/she is an important part of “adult you” and that you want the two of you to merge together. You need each other to be whole.

– The whole purpose of this exercise is to pull your fragmented selves back together. It may take several talks before “little you” will agree to merge. Allow this to flow in its own time. Be patient. “Little you” has big trust issues and once he/she trusts “adult you,” it will become much easier for you to begin trusting others.

– Be fully honest with “little you.” You can say that you are safe, but also acknowledge that bad things can still happen. People sometimes get raped, beaten up, robbed, have health issues and accidents. However, remind “little you” that you now have the maturity and ability to avoid and handle these situations.

– Ask “little you” to share his/her greatest fears. Then help to calm those fears with new solutions. Together, dissolve those fears. Oftentimes, these are the false beliefs coming to the surface. You may not even be aware of many of these “background tapes” that run subconsciously and are affecting every area of your life.

We create these false beliefs from an immature perspective. There may be dozens of them running our lives subconsciously. These may be creating an undercurrent of anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts. They are blocking the natural flow of energy through your body, creating dis-ease. They also block one’s ability to give and receive love freely, if at all. These false beliefs rob you of a happy life.

As you have your conversations with your inner child, find these fears and beliefs that were created in the past. Together, come up with a plan on how to release them. Often, just talking about the fear and feeling “heard” is enough to move onto the healing path.

The goal is to get “little you” to re-merge with you. You need each other. As these unresolved emotional traumas are released, the energy blocks will dissolve. Much of the pain in your body will release. As the energy blocks dissolve, the natural flow of energy in the body will return and the healing will begin. You may also experience mental clarity, emotional stability and can begin to expand your spiritual awareness.

The next step is to heal the relationship with any others that were involved. In most cases, abusers have a past history of being abused. Their unresolved emotional pain makes them vulnerable to entity attachment. Most people who do really mean things are under the influence of dark entities. If you looked in their eyes when they were doing the abuse, you may have noticed that it was a different “person” looking back at you. During those times, an entity had full possession of them. They may not even remember what transpired. Knowing this may make it easier to forgive the perpetrator. Forgiving them, yourself and anyone else involved is very important for your growth. Unforgiveness harbors anger, rage, bitterness, revenge, etc. All of this will make you more vulnerable to entity interference and continue to create blocks in your life. Forgiving someone is of most benefit to you. What the other person did or said may have caused you great harm. When holding onto unforgiveness, you create more harm to yourself. Unforgiveness is about letting go of the stranglehold that person may have on you.

In the Bible Matthew 6:14-15 gives us a strong reminder, “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” It is important to unburden yourself by forgiving others for what they have done and let God take care of the consequences. Whenever you feel the release, ask the Holy Spirit to fill that void with Divine Love.

There are many who suffer horrible traumas, yet come away much better because of it. You may find it helpful to read stories about people who have overcome trauma similar to yours. Prayerfully lay your burdens at the feet of God or Jesus. Ask for help in seeing whatever is needed to help you to heal. Oftentimes, the path to healing includes supporting others who are also hurting. Consider joining a support group led by a professional counselor. Your story may be exactly what someone else needs to heal. Sometimes what is needed most is simply to be heard, whether it is the hurt “inner you,” the “adult you” or someone who is reaching out to you for support.

Reach up to God, reach inward to “inner you,” reach out for support from others and offer the same in return.

Many blessings on your road to healing!

Theresa Crabtree

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The following is a list of suggested resources that others recommend for healing the Inner Child.
In my opinion, Esther Hicks is an excellent channel for “Abraham,” a group of highly aware Light Beings who lovingly support the human race. Go to YouTube and do a search on “Abraham Hicks” and whatever topic you are having problems with.
There are also a variety of “Inner Child” Meditations you can listen to on YouTube.

Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls
A Cosmic Perspective of Codependence and the Human Condition
~ Robert Burney

Codependent No more
~ Melody Beattie

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma
~ Pete Walker

Daughter Detox: Recovering From An Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life
~ Peg Streep

Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
~ Shannon Thomas

Homecoming: Reclaiming Your Inner Child
~ John Bradshaw

Healing the Child Within
A Gift to Myself
  (Workbook and Guide to Healing the Child Within)
~ Charles L. Whitfield, M.D.

Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People
~ Jackson MacKenzie

The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting
~ Alice Miller

The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment
~ Babette Rothschild

The Verbally Abusive Relationship:
How to Recognize It and How to Respond
~ Patricia Evans

The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
~ Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

The Family Crucible: The Intense Experience of Family Therapy
~ Agustus Y. Napier

The Road Less Travelled
~ M. Scott Peck

The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
~ Michael A. Singer

Twenty-One: My Personal Battle with and Eventual Healing of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
~ Elizabeth Birdfeather

When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships
~ David Richo

You Can Heal Your Life
~ Louise Hay

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HEART CONNECTION EXERCISES

The “Heart Connection” is a simple, yet powerful, method to increase love. It is also a way to energetically heal imbalances with people and traumatic events. You may have seen pictures of religious icons having a flame or sun in the heart region. Every conscious being has this Divine Flame, one’s Inner Spirit, which is a connection to the Creator. The Heart Connection can help you to feel a stronger connection with the Creator, your Inner Spirit and others.

HOW TO DO THE HEART CONNECTION
Place your left hand on your upper heart region. Then place your right hand on top of your left hand. Then well up feelings of love and gratitude. Your hands become an electrical circuit and will create an energetic loop coming from the front side of your Divine Flame, going into your left palm, up your arm, through the back side of your heart/flame, down your right arm, out of your palm and back into your heart. Feel the energy and warmth of your heart/flame. Allow the energy to flow through your entire body and auric field.

Woman with hands over heart. Heart Connection Pose

CONNECT DEEPLY WITH THE CREATOR
Use the Heart Connection to consciously send and receive love with the Creator. Amp up your level of love and gratitude until you feel the energy going to and from the Creator. Bask in this love for several moments. Connecting with the Creator in this manner is an excellent way to start and end each day.

INCREASE SELF-LOVE
The Heart Connection is a powerful method to increase self-love and remain emotionally balanced. Do the Heart Connection as mentioned above. Connect with your Divine Flame. Fan your Flame with feelings of love and gratitude. Bring to mind happy memories and acts of kindness you have performed. Send love and gratitude to your body, mind and soul. Receive the love coming back to you. Know that you are loved beyond measure. Be grateful for the opportunity to be on earth at this moment. Relax and enjoy the love connection.

This is a great way to start and end every day. You can do this while resting in bed with your eyes closed. As you groom for the day, make the Heart Connection while looking in the mirror. Amp up your self-love throughout the day while you are driving, walking or going about your busy day. Simply visualize your hands on your heart while giving yourself a dose of self-love whenever you feel unbalanced or need to be uplifted.

ENHANCE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THOSE YOU LOVE
You can use the Heart Connection with those you love or would like to have an enhanced relationship with. First, amp up love and gratitude in your heart. Then imagine the person standing in front of you. Begin to send love to this person and allow your heart to open and receive the love that flows back to you. Telepathically, they will receive this love and thoughts of you may come into their mind. How much they receive your love is dependent on how open their heart is.

HEAL UNBALANCED ENERGIES WITH PEOPLE, PLACES, EVENTS
The Heart Connection is a powerful tool to heal stuck energies created with people you are off balance with. Visualize the person standing in front of you. If the pain is too great with this person, then send them the energy without visualizing them in front of you.

Set a strong intention that you want to heal the wounds with this person. You do not have to direct the energy in any way, just send and receive the love. If you prefer, you can ask their forgiveness, accept responsibility for your actions or forgive them for their actions.

Recognize that they and you both operate from the unresolved emotional trauma incurred throughout life. Keep in mind that when humans intentionally harm themselves or others, there is often demonic interference. This doesn’t excuse their behavior, but it may make it easier for you to forgive them.

If you are not ready to forgive or feel uncomfortable sending love to this person, then focus on connecting with their Inner Spirit, their divine connection to the Creator. Do the energy exchange from this level. You can do this with people who are alive or deceased.

Perhaps it is not a person, but a place or an event that is the cause of the imbalance. Focus your attention on this place or event, asking the Creator to help you to heal. Ask for insights to help you see things from a new perspective in order to heal more deeply.

Caution: With this exercise, you are communicating at a soul level, which includes the mind, emotions and will. This exercise is not meant to be used to get someone to become romantically interested in you. That is manipulation, not unconditional love. Rather, send this person love and an intention that you are interested in getting to know him/her better. Then let that energy flow as it will.

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When the Past is Present Book Cover

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